Couples Therapy
Transforming communication, connection & intimacy You know the quiet exhaustion of a relationship that has fallen out of sync. It’s the daily tension of walking on eggshells, stuck in the same argument while intimacy and sex grind to a standstill. Whether you are navigating shattered trust, dysfunctional patterns, or unspoken disconnection - it is a heavy grief to feel like a stranger to the person who knows you best.
You’re tired of waiting for things to get better…
Couples tend to get stuck in the same cycles -- the same issues playing out on repeat for weeks, months, and eventually years. It’s not your fault - and it’s not your partner’s fault. It’s that the pattern has become so normal it no longer makes sense how to get out of it. Couples therapy provides the real-time practice to slow down, recognize the cycle, and see what can change.
I welcome partnerships of all kinds - queer, CNM, neurodivergent, & nontraditional
What Does Couples Therapy Look Like?
Every relationship has it’s own dynamic and our work is tailored to your unique struggles and situation. Together, with curiosity, humor, and no-bullshit, examples of interventions may include:
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Emotionally Focused THerapy (EFT)EFT is a gold-standard, research-backed approach. At its core, EFT is about attachment - the deep human need to feel safe, secure, and connected to the people we love.
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Internal Family Systems (IFS)IFS works from the framework that we aren’t just one static personality - we are made up of different "parts." In couples work, I use Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO), an application of IFS, to map those parts of you that take over when your relationship feels threatened.
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Somatic ExperiencingSomatic techniques shift the focus from the verbal argument to the nervous system. By tracking physical cues, partners learn to slow down, de-escalate fights, and deeply co-regulate with each other.
Empowering Couples
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Deepening Connection
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Restoring Love
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Empowering Couples 〰️ Deepening Connection 〰️ Restoring Love 〰️
FAQS
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Just a few common examples that come up:
Resentment
Intimacy & Desire discrepancies
Life after children leave the home
Infidelity & betrayal
Overcoming the common "parent-child" dynamic
Processing loss and trauma as a couple
Neurodiverse couples - or when one couple has ADHD/ASD and the other doesn’t
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Relational healing isn't a quick fix, and is highly dependent on situation. Here is a hypothetical arc of what a timeframe can look like:
Phase 1: The Initial Relief (Weeks 1–6) You might feel a little nervous or overwhelmed, but you'll quickly feel the relief of having a dedicated, neutral space to unpack the heavy lifting.
Phase 2: Clarity & Vocabulary (Months 3–6) The fog clears. You’ll begin to clearly identify your core triggers, understand your partner's internal landscape, and feel more confident expressing your actual needs.
Phase 3: Deep Rewiring (Months 6–12) Your nervous systems settle. Fights happen less frequently and lose their toxic edge. You are finally able to invite, enjoy, and sustain deep connection, play, and intimacy.
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Absolutely. These same principles apply to all close human bonds. I use these same techniques to help parents and adult children reconnect, families navigate transitions, or close friends rebuild trust.
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You don’t have to wait for your partner to be ready for therapy for change to happen. Relationship therapy can give you tools to begin changing patterns on your own and may be an effective first step toward helping your partner become more open to treatment.
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This is an incredibly common and understandable worry. If it feels like things are too damaged or fractured to repair, I will always be completely honest with you, and we will discuss our options openly.
In these situations, we may also meet for individual one-on-one sessions to better understand each partner's perspective.
Additionally, I offer Discernment Counseling, which is a specialized short-term path designed specifically for couples where one or both partners are unsure if they want to stay in the relationship. If we need to pivot our focus to this approach, we can easily change our treatment plan to meet you exactly where you are.